What to bring if child falls sick in the night

Before leaving the house, you need to
A. Grab your handbag with the following:

1. wallet with some cash, NRIC or identification card

2. Mobile phone fully charged and/or charger

3. Child's BC and health booklet

4. If paying medical fees by nets, bring CDA card (and remember PIN)

5. Child's diapers and bb wipes (if you don't want to be charged for using those provided by the hospital which are more costly)

6. child's bath towel or big blanket (it could be very cold at A&E and may be a long wait)

7. water bottle and some biscuits,nuts or bread (to keep you awake or 'stay alive')

8. Child's water bottle and milk bottle

9. a set of child's clothes
10. House keys

B. Bring along a sweater for yourself.

C. Bring along some plastic bags and tissue paper if child is feeling nauseous.

D. Note down the recordings/history of the child's discomfort


Upon arrival at the KKH Children A&E
A. Press for a 'Q' ticket on the right hand side upon entering the glass doors.
B. Wait for your no. to be called (4 partitioned-rooms in front of the seats)
C. Let the nurse know if your child has any known allergy after she checked the child's bp, heart rate and breathing (lungs) etc
D. Advance to the Registration/Payment counters to wait for your no. to be called.
E. Let the nurse know if your child has hospital insurance policy

39th week Dearest Bb TK

31may - 6jun'11

267 days' old, you stay at Grandmum's place instead till you're better; you poo 4x;
268 days' old, you will attend your Lil' cou J's bithday bash this weekend if better; you poo 4x;
269 days' old, you din will go to the motherhood fair if better as Marmy has to go for work; you pooed at 130a and quietly lie there without 'calling' Marmy; Marmy fed you glucose drink before gg for work; you pooed on Granddad and soiled his pants;
270 days' old, you stay w Granddad and Grandmum while Dardy and Marmy attended Dharma meeting after work; you poo 2x; felt better on Day 17 of diarrhoea and finished 24.25oz of milk and 2oz glucose water in all;
271 days' old, you finished 31oz of milk in all; you poo 2x; Dardy brought you your fav Lion toys;
272 days' old, you finished 33.4oz of milk in all; you poo 3x; napped 2.5833h; Dardy came to visit and you started on TCM;
273 days' old, you finished 34oz of milk in all; you poo 1x; napped 2.917h; Grandmum made sweet potato soup and fed you the watery puree;

39th week of motherhood

30may - 5jun

- went to work feeling shoulder and nect ache for the whole day (luckily runny nose stopped in the day)
- came home after TK pooed and ready to be put to sleep at Mum's place by public transport
- dozed off for the entire journey and bumped loudly against the window once
- was locked in for the first time after the bus captain shut down the engine, switched off the lights and closed the doors at the bus interchange at 1120p
- called out twice to the bus captain before he left the bus but he did hear me
- after knocking for a few minutes at the glass and door (bus captain lighted a cigarette and started smoking)
- do you know you can press the EMERGENCY button to open the door to 'escape'?

- took MC to rest (sleep deprived for goodness-know-how-long) and still having runny nose
- throat was so painful on Fri nite and thank goodness I don't have a temperature
- thankful for having Mum around to take care of TK and Dad is doing a wonderful job to assist
- decided not to send to infant care after hubby suggested to keep TK at home (had persistent nappy rash and after discharge from hospital)
- Mum and Dad are more than happy (their idea too) and determined to feed TK to become 'rounder'

- looking thru the photos of TK since Bb shower and checking emails (sent some bb shower photos to friends)
- hope to complete sending all photos (ready to be sent out months ago)
-sent out 'eThank-you' for Bb TK 1st mth bb shower before it's too late and become Bb TK 1st birthday instead
- gg to rtn the NLB books after feeding TK the medication at 8plus in the evening
- staying at Mum's place till at least 2wk 3wk more??

A New Start Day 4 (TK PAPA LAM)

After working from 9 to 9 today, i feel tired but great at heart as i know things are starting to move in the happy direction. We may not be able to make everything perfect, but we can choose to be happy with what we have and move on with a heart full of gratitude, greatness and energy.

Fear will no longer be the limit! Thanks TK Lam and Mummy Lam for making Dardy's life even more meaningful.

A New Start Day 3 (TK PAPA LAM)

Today's main topic is you, my darling TK Lam. Dardy Lam reflected much when sleeping and these are the main things i want to tell you:

Sorry for not insisting strongly not to let you be alone on grandma's bed in April. Or else you won't had a fall.
Sorry too for not doing my homework well and failed to educate myself, mummy and the people helping to take care of you about saliva contimination on your milk when we put your unfinished milk back into the refrigerator.

As mummy is also on the road to recovery, Dardy should assume full responsibility of both your safety as i am very remorseful for seeing the seed of bad things that will happen and still allowing it to ripen. Dardy should be much more insistent despite scoldings. Get past the personal the feeling part, Dardy! Let them be the poo-of-life and heighten my wisdom & compassion!

So, to set things straight, Dardy will not retract anymore what i think is right from the start and i will voice out and insist things are done right. Your Safety and Health is top priority. You will only play on the floor with supervision and no more on adult's bed. Your milk would be make but only half would be given to you. If you want more, then we'll give you the other half. And if you dont want the rest, we will keep it in the refrigerator.

And yes, i will insist your barricade is up when we leave you in your baby cot. Most of all, as energy is limited (once used, its less for other things...that's a fact), dardy will remind mummy and myself to ignore chicken-feather little things and keep mind back on important things such as your well-being.

May Buddha gives Dardy the clarity of mind and wisdom to overcome all obstacles that sometimes come all together at once. Om.

A New Start Day 2 (TK PAPA LAM)

Saturday has always been the most productive day of more regular week. Today is no exception. While the little ones camp at my in-laws house, opportunity to clean up our House in a big way arises.

First, of cos, I make sure i had a long sleep to replenish all the energy lost to work during the weekdays and coupled with 2 shots of coffee, my grand reworks began. House-cleaning, clothes cleaning, bed cleaning and dish cleaning is done by half day and I had all 'flags' flying before heading for late lunch.

At 5pm, I continue my rework on my data center with the newly bought NAS and meddle with ticks and tocks of initial business planout. With everything in house organised, it's indeed much easier to strategize for the great battles ahead.

A New Start Day 1 (TK PAPA LAM)

Leaving my darling TK and mummy baby in the hospital overnight by themselves is the last thing I ever want to experience. But things happen and we just have to deal with it. As veterans in emergency response now, the family A-Team (me, mummy-grandma and my 2 brothers) had swiftly analysed the case, make decisions, and did what we can for TK now.

I couldn't fall sleep when i reached home alone and the more i think of the whole intertwined work-family relationships (this is in fact a very complicated organic-in-nature Rat Race and probably getting worse as work load gets more and more for bosses promotions and the appearance of more and more 'sway-inflicting' people), the more intense my mind raced.

So after morning prayer, i decided to go for a jog at 4.30am around Toa Payoh to signify a kick start to a new determination of change. 'If things are to change, i need to change first' is the only thing that kept me focused for the entire early morning.

Now, I am even more determined to make my business models work and free all of us from the blood suckers..You-Know-Who. TK and mummy baby, here i come!

Motherhood exhibition 2011 is back!

This will be the first Motherhood exhibition for me, and hubby and TK..we didn't manage to go last year, as I was recovering from AVM surgery and probably missed it.

This time, I'm definitely gg to mark this dates and drag mum and hubby along.

38th week of motherhood

23may - 29may

- walked down a crowded covered pavement pushing a baby stroller w 8m 2w 1d old infant and after exiting the SMRT station, in less than 5min, 7 'unknown' people stepped on / touched my 1yr 3w 2d-old slip-on sandals which cost S$39.90 without even saying an apology or showing a teeny weeny bit of being sorry
- even as I turned to check the people walking behind us, after stepping on my sandals, they can pretend nothing happened and continued on their way
- I verbalised my thoughts and the people walking past us showed no signs that they heard me, maybe they are hard of hearing from listening to loud music or they're really the results of our society's failure (bringing up and breeding ill-mannered Generation)
- no one bothered to give way to us as usual, and even tried to overtake us by cutting and walking closed ahead of us (maybe they're very late for their appointment) but where are all the manners?!
- finally there's a kind soul who heard me said,"Baby, people here no one give way to us." and she gave way to us, but I politely rejected
- what if someone accidentally hit and tripped over our baby stroller? fell down onto the infant sleeping inside? even an apology won't be any helpful then..
- last, but not least, why are ppl walking 4 by 4 or 5 by 5, leaving no space for us to walk? or walking on the right side of the pathway (where's the keep left policy?) or giving way but brushing my shoulder and not apologising?

- my turn to 'langa' hubby's shoe when i was walking behind him and tried to 'change lane'
- left a scratch mark and broken skin on my right angle
- watched an interview on gms (good morning singapore, TV8) on mountain climbing and brought back memories of the 2002 Mt Kinabalu trip I went
- still feeling troubled of this coming Friday having to work from 745a till 5p (at least) to meet a few 'customers' (as of today, only 3 has confirmed appt)
 - why am I punished to be 'stucked' in the office for 9h when i can complete all 3 appt within an hour (doc usually can do all 3 in less than 30min)

- it's a rainy day around noon
- waited for almost 24 minutes for my bus (it's only another 10min journey to my destination)
- we reach infant care centre at 9plus in the mornings, with TK feeding once or twice at 2a - 6a and i usually don't go back to sleep after 6a (usually go to bed 10p-12a)
- had less than 5h of sleep (woke up 1-2 times by TK) last night and considered a good night's sleep

- gg to mum's pl for dinner (Eat with your Family Day in advance) after work
- hubby and me eat 'steamboat' for dinner almost every weekday and like most Singaporeans, dine out 8-10 meals in a week on average
- it's washing,cutting,cooking and getting ready for dinner once i reach home after work (once i resume full-load end June, hubby will have to juggle this chore while bbsitting and feeding Lil' TK before i 'touch down' at 8p) and doing abit of laundry by hand
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- some of my colleagues are rushing over after work (which only ends 4p) to meet their child(ren)'s teachers
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38th week Dearest Bb TK

24may - 30may'11

260 days' old, you are staying home w Grandma while Marmy goes marketing w Grandpa after dinner;
261 days' old, you are invited to attend Lil' J's 1st birthdae bash at Baby Gym next Sun;
262 days' old, you are gg to Grandmum's place for dinner and stay for the weekend as Marmy needs to work at 745a; you vomitted a few times and was sent to A&E for the first time; continued to have loose stools and was told to hydrate at least 300-400ml before you're put to drip; weigh 7.1kg after more than a week diarrhoea (had high fever and runny nose prior to this);
263 days' old, you are staying at Granddad's place for most of the June hols starting nex wk; you are discharged from hospital by evening;
264 days' old, you are looking forward to the Zoo trip in 3 weeks' time (inspiration to get better); had cooked rice water for the first time (helped to stop diarrhoea); 
265 days' old, you still poo after every meal of 3oz of milk;
266 days' old, you had Glucose water for the first time; napped for more than 2h at 430p;

37th week Dearest Bb TK

17may - 23may'11

253 days' old, you celebrated your first Vesak Day;
254 days' old, you celebrated Dardy's birthday; gg for dinner w Grandpa & Grandma aft visitg doc; had diarrhoea and had 3 runs; you took soy milk for the first time;
255 days' old, you didn't go for infant care and Grandma came to bbsit you; Marmy took you to the Polyclinic for the first time and Dardy was worried the hot sun will 'burn' you; you cough abit;
256 days' old, you stayed home w Grandma while Dardy and Marmy attended the last Dharma Meditation class this Semester;
257 days' old, you stayed home w Dardy and Marmy;
258 days' old, you went marketing and Sunday banking, feeling slightly better; Marmy took you to poo at 5a;
259 days' old, you return to infant care after having diarrhoea 5 days ago; Marmy is fetching you after work as Dardy OT today; Grandpa is visiting you tomorrow;

37th week of motherhood

16may - 22may

- woke up at 2a and 530a to feed TK
- went to do some washing of TK gauze napkins and top-up the water bottles, prepare TK's daily nece bag for infant care (bedding as it's the first day of infant care in the week)
- gg to Mum's place to stay and buy TK groceries and necessities
- hubby OT today and i'd have to 'fly' off after work to fetch TK
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- bought $170.50 worth of groceries in the morning
- pack TK clothes and necessities to take home after dinner
- hubby came over for dinner and fetch us home

- took TK to see doc for diarrhoea
- Pa, Ma came after dinner together at L7 kopi shop
- had heart talk w hubby till midnite
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- rushed to take TK home after first visit to polyclinic for referral before gg to work
- OT 30min and check emails, blog while waiting in office
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天將大任

•孟子曰：「天將降大任於斯人也，必先苦其心志，勞其筋骨，餓其體膚，空乏其身，行拂亂其所為，所以動心忍性，增益其所不能。」 

•意思是:
上天將要把重大使命降落到某人身上，一定要先使他的意志受到磨練，使他的筋骨受到勞累，使他的身体忍飢挨餓，使他備受窮困之苦，做事總是不能順利。這樣來震動他的心志，堅韌他的性情，增長他的才能。

•其實我認為這是孟子教人要有EQ (情緒智商) ，面對逆境時的態度。我不反對上天真的有安排，但無論如何能用正面處理逆境，過後必定有所得益，對將來再面對困難必定更容易解決，這樣的人必定更容易成功做出一番大事。

•我們每天早上醒來，就只有兩個選擇：希望這一天過得快樂還是不快樂。其實這只是一種心境的差別，就看我們自己的決定了！

Menu for confinement period for health conscious people

8am Breakfast

 chee cheong fun

fried veg beehoon

 oats bread w strawberry jam & olive spread for breakfast

fried noodles w carrots and mushroom & warm soy drink

poh chai mee soup w egg

chee cheong fun & warm soy drink

12nn Lunch

steamed tofu w carrots, fried ginger & veg soup

po cai, fried ginger & veg meat & soup

multigrain porridge & cabbage w veg chicken, mushrooms & herbal soup w veg dumplings

xiao bai cai w carrots, veg chicken &

herbal soup w veg mutton balls

cabbage w carrots, veg chicken & veg soup (carrots, quail eggs, potatoes, sweet corn w veg mutton balls)

 red leaf vegetables & fried egg w old ginger &

 black bean soup

xiao bai cai w carrots & veg soup w sweet corn, pearl beans

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Food you eat mindfully will strengthen your mental vitality

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Below is an excerpt from Biography of Venerable Acariya Mun.

Thoroughly investigate all the food you eat. Don’t allow those foods that taste good to add poison to your mind. Even though the body may be strengthened by food that’s eaten without proper investigation, the mind will be weakened by its damaging effects. By nourishing your body with food that is eaten unmindfully, you will, in effect, be destroying yourself with nourishment that depletes your mental vitality.

My public transport Xperience

I remembered

recently I offered a seat to an elderly lady

when there was an available seat next to me on the SMRT.

There was a family sitting on the seats on the other side

(they too wanted to let their father take the seat).

After the elderly lady sat down, I heard the little son expressed disappointment,

and the father commented to the son,

"People want to give seat, let them give la."

I took a glance at the family, and felt sorry for the child.
Grown adults not knowing the manners is one thing but growing children
brought up this way is the result of poor parenting.
How can you blame the child?

I chatted briefly with the elderly lady before I 'spotted' another elderly gentleman standing not far from us
near the exit door, and I signalled with my hand, calling 'Uncle' softly to him.
Another gentleman, who looked much younger, in his 40-50's,
replied he's also 'Uncle'.

Finally I caught his attention but he rejected my kindness with a wave and a smile on his face.
I can only return his smile.

36th week Dearest Bb TK

10may - 16may'11

246 days' old, you had high fever of 39.6 deg C; gg to see specialist at KKH nex week; didn't poo and didn't drink much water; you didn't like the 2.5ml medication prescribed (orange flavour);
247 days' old, you still cried when in discomfort;
248 days' old, you pooed at 855a; napped for 5.08h in all;
249 days' old, you pooed at 712a; Grandma came to bbsit you while Dardy & Marmy went for Meditation class; weather is still warm and you perspire alot (body still sticky after towel dry);
250 days' old, you went to Little Grandaunt's place and met your cousins and played 'masak'; stared at the balloons and at your Grandaunts and Aunties when they conversed; Dardy made you a 'playpen' and you had so many make-do toys (bottles of supplements, clapper, towel toy, bb einstein dvd cover, etc)
251 days' old, you went Sunday banking and went to the bookshop in the bb stroller for the first time;
252 days' old, you celebrate your first Vesak Day tomorrow; pooed at 820a after Marmy woke you up gently; gg to Granddad's place to stay after infant care;

36th week of motherhood

9may - 15may

- TK stayed at Grandmum's place but he cried alot
- we went home after dinner and hubby work OT

- TK had high fever, and I had to take him home from infant care to see a doc
- tr suggested to shower him first, so it'd be easier for me
- called hubby and my office to take leave
- TK fell asleep on the way out and doc said TK had temp of 39.4 - 39.6 deg C
- we had to watch for any diarrhoea, abnormality in urine, rashes etc
- made simple noodle soup and had a little time to check emails and sorted the photos in PC
- TK felt better only after taking the medication, and I towel bathed him
- pa ma came to visit us and I went out to do groceries w pa joining shortly (total of savings $9.35)
- so sleepy but TK still crying and refused to sleep after feeding medication and milk at past 12 midnight
- hubby take over and pacified TK till he's sleepy

- TK still abit feverish and still disliked the medication
- hubby took TK out for lunch and met ma & Little Aunt
- Ma came over at 5plus to help bbsit TK

- TK felt abit better and returned to infant care
- the happiest work-day in the month

Went on Amazing Race-cum-Parkour to cast vote for Singapore GE 2011

We went to cast vote with TK in stroller before gg for fami makan.

It's a shorter Q for us..there're A1, A2...indicated on our registration cards.

I decided to go first, leaving TK with Dardy at the entrance.

After I cast my vote into the box, I asked if I can return to my infant & hubby, but I was told,

"I'm sorry, this way out."

I repeated my concern, but was given the same reply.

"This is terrible!" I remarked and ran off to the entrance area.

We're running late for lunch appointment, and it will be a long route to return to where TK and Dardy was,

to take over so Dardy can go queue up to cast his vote.

thus I took the shortcut.

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35th week of motherhood

2may - 8may

- the first time heard TK say da-da-da-da loud and clear （“打打”客话是爷爷的意思，而“打哒”是平时我称呼老公的方式)
- there's no school for all the schools which are chosen to be polling centres for the GE (General Election) in the afternn on the eve of polling day

- went to buy more med (short of 6 weeks' supply) w hubby after sending TK to infant
- reached office just in time to report for work
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- 1st anniversary of my discharge from hospital after AVM surgery
- the PAP Rally at the stadium nearby ended at 9p and we were listening to it since 730p from our home
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- took a slice of bread at 355a after feeding TK and did some washing of his clothes, pack his things for infant before gg back to bed
- had to squeeze in beside hubby as he's turn and occupy 75% of the bed (knows when i'm out of bed and make full use of it)
- didn't have time to poo or take breakfast before leaving for work (hubby take TK to infant before gg for mtg)
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- first time to participate in GE
- first time to celebrate Mother's Day with TK
- Happy mums Day to all mothers and mum-to-be 祝天下的母亲们“母亲节快乐!”
- celebrated w Grannies at vegetarian restaurant Lotus at Quality Hotel but was wrongly charged for the wet towels (including the GST and Svs charge)
- only refunded the price for the towels after some time (the manager didn't seem to know how to handle such situation)
- only realised the mistake 2 weeks later while looking through the receipts
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- gg to visit Granddad and Grandmum aft hubby do marketing
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35th week Dearest Bb TK

3may - 9may'11

239 days' old, you shouted loudly for tr to carry you; nowadays you returned home to finish a bottle of milk before gg to bed at 9p;
240 days' old, you had 4.5oz before sleeping at 845p; you 'wink' to the new tr at infant care and they laughed so happily, and you were frightened and cried;
241 days' old, you poo 2 lumps the size of 10-cent coins;
242 days' old, you
243 days' old, you had your first GE (General Election) when you turn 8m; pooed at 605a;
244 days' old, you are spotted with the 2nd frontal tooth;
245 days' old, you bontan school as it's a school holiday;